Our daily lives include challenges and problems. Some of our issues are self created some are created by others. In either case the key to our challenges is to find solutions. The faster the solutions can be reached, the faster we can move on to more creative endeavors.
Take, for instance, the case of the missing keys. The leather strap on my key ring is too much of a temptation for the dog. If she finds the keys, she will take them, chew them, then find a special spot to leave them for safekeeping. Which is all fine and good until I need to go somewhere.
To find the keys I can't ask the dog. Oh, she knows where they are but she isn't telling. Lecturing her won't do any good. She's deaf anyway, so, she couldn't hear me even if it was worthwhile. The best solution, is just that, the solution. Finding the keys is the only thing that will lock the house and get my car started. Later, I can find a better place for my keys and eliminate the issue all together.
This isn't to say that there aren't times to find blame and make it stick. Criminal injustices are a good example of this and there are detectives specifically trained to find and place blame.
Usually blame just slows down our days and mucks up our processes. When we make the solution our goal and let accountability fall to finding a better way, that's when we find progress. Find the solution, instead of finding the blame, and you will also find success.
